Love – Find True Love Book

A key love secret

Posted on April 26, 2023

Shift the focus in your life from yourself, beyond your family and friends, to your partner – and if you do that while also shifting the focus from physical things to intangible love – you have a much better chance of developing true love.
The secret is relatively easy to do: focus on your energy, the power, of love.
As Mother Teresa suggested it isn’t what you do, but the amount of love that you do it with that counts most. Or as musician John Lennon said, it matters not whom you love or how you love, only that you love.

At some stage in your life you’ll reach a point where what’s most important to you is your own personal growth. Yes, that’s right, you’ll ultimately want validation that your life has been worthwhile and has meaning.
We have found this validation is the basic pivotal point – the crux – that determines whether a relationship will survive, die or flourish into true love.
This is what you are seeking to determine when you are dating – whether you realise it or not – and assessing potential partners or evaluating an existing relationship.
If you’re in a relationship and your partner lets you grow – even if they don’t actively encourage it – you’ll most likely remain with them. You might do this even if they exert control over or abuse you. Whereas if they blatantly hinder or stop your personal growth you’ll most likely seek to escape.

A problem is that we often we seek other people, things and even objects, to help us grow. This is why working and having children are such a big part of life; they provide a form of validation, of worthiness, of meaning – and do so better than most other approaches.
The only other thing that validates each of us more, makes life more meaningful, is love.
If you have a partner who validates you, appreciates you and what you do then you have an extraordinary love, a true love.

If your partner is not doing this for you, and this is where many relationships run into trouble, then you may begin to resent them.
You may even seek someone whom you feel or think validates you, seemingly makes your life more worthwhile.

Do you seek a partner, or want your current partner if you have one, to do this for you – to accept you, approve you and solve your problems for you?
Most of us want this, as it make us feel worthy.

So you think you are a good lover? Try this quick quiz

Posted on March 25, 2022

True love is loving someone just the way they are and supporting them to become the best person they can – not wanting to change or fix them.
While opposites sometimes attract, it‘s often safer to seek someone who is similar to you and who wants similar things out of the marriage and life as you do.
How similar are you to your potential partner? Take this test: write down how similar you think you are, and then ask your partner to do the same, with respect to:

Emotion
Intellect
Spirituality
Kindness
Communication
Consideration
Enthusiasm
Socialness
Passion
Proactiveness
Ambition
Sense of humour
Conflict resolution
Adaptability
Need to be organised / control

Use a 10 point scale, with 1 being ‘not at all similar’ to 10 being ‘very similar’.
This will require you knowing and understanding how your partner thinks about these things. If you are uncertain ask your partner what they feel and think.
If you are far apart on more than half of these, you will most likely run into problems – sooner or later. As mentioned earlier, sharing a similar attitude to love, and life, is key to a lasting and loving relationship.
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The difference between love and true love

Posted on July 10, 2021

A key to finding true love is to expand beyond the basics, beyond the physical.
Expand to the mental, relate and connect on a mental level.
Then take it further and expand into the spiritual.

How do you do that?
For example, rather than try to change your partner, expand into areas where you can reconnect.
Focus on the energy; your energy, your partner’s energy and how it relates and interacts between you. Is it flowing between you, expanding, balancing?
Whatever the case, you can give more love energy, more consideration, more connection, more self worth, more encouragement, more of you.

Be the hero of your own relationship, to not only save it, but to take it to another level.
It’s worth giving it a try. If you succeed you can lift your relationship towards the comfort, warmth and joy of true love.

Here are some tips:
Often we seek things in a relationship that we’re missing from our self. If you ‘need’ someone to ‘complete’ you, to provide you with a ‘better half’, address what you’re missing in your relationship with yourself first
Realise that things change – and that you may also need to change too
Explore, share – yourself – your inner-most self
Continually relate with a partner; seek ways to connect, to understand
Speak up. More importantly listen up
Ensure your words and actions are positive and that they match one another
If how you feel, think, speak and act all match you’ll feel much more content
Take a relationship beyond the physical; expand to the mental, then the divine.

See more on how to do this in the free ebook!
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What’s a man to do?

Posted on April 14, 2021

You’ve probably realised that women tend to be different to men when it comes to love (besides from the obvious anatomy) and that most men are not good at understanding women, let alone love.

A good friend who was dating told us he was just going to be himself and if a woman liked him that was “great” and if not “it wasn’t meant to be”. The problem was that it took us years to get to know him, who he really was and how loving and caring a person he is. So how could he expect a potential partner to realize that in a date or two? How could he show that he was strong, yet sensitive – and more?

Here are 10 tips that helped him and can help MEN FIND LOVE.

To change you need to realise that you might have to change a few things; or more accurately expand your way of thinking and what you do.

Author and pick-up guru Neil Strauss proffers to men that they should learn to become, and demonstrate, that they are the most interesting person in a room in order to interest potential partners. A big part of this is showing that they understand intangible things, such as love.

Tip 1 We’re all attracted to and want to be with people who make us feel good. That’s why you like being with your mates, they make you feel good. When it comes to your partner, do you currently make her feel good about herself? Answer truthfully. If not, can you? Of course you can! You’re a big strong man and can do anything.

Your partner most likely wants to feel that she’s the most important person, not just woman, in your life. This means that she would most likely appreciate being told that you care for her, that you love her, that you’re there for her – always. Speak up and say something nice. Don’t think it’s a matter of not saying anything.

Some men have learnt that they can’t seem to say the right words to the women in their life. So they end up saying very little, if anything at all – especially nothing complimentary or deep and never how they feel. Well, this might be the biggest mistake you’re currently making.

It’s an easy one to fix. What you actually need to do is to say lots! Giving loving words, appreciation, is important. It’s how you give energy. You need to tell your partner that you love her, what you love most about her – there has to be something about her that you still like, even if it’s you just saying what you like the most about her physical appearance. Tell her what you find sexy about her. Then move onto those aspects of her personality that you appreciate. What attracted you to her in the first place? It’s probably still there. These words need to be heartfelt. Words without feeling won’t do it.

You can also show appreciation by giving in other ways, such as giving chocolates, flowers or jewellery.

But remember, these are physical things and while they might help a little it’s the intangible things that work best. (Recall how energy doesn’t flow in physical things, it’s stored.

For the other nine tips see the free e-book here

How do you know?

Posted on February 19, 2021

Once you’ve found someone how do you really know you’ve found the ‘right’ person?
We’ve found signs include:

Wanting to give love unconditionally to your partner
Providing a safe and secure environment and supporting them through good and bad times
Being able to talk, and listen, together for hours
Sharing your inner most self, your hearts
Having similar attitudes and aims
Encouraging your partner to be themselves and being able to accept who they are
Realizing that every aspect of you meshes or ‘clicks; with and adds to that of your partner
Together you explore, discover, learn, experience and achieve much more than you could on your own
You are separate, but integrated, adding to each other’s energy, life and love; and
Your love is better than the songs and movies you used to associate with love.

Learn more, much more about finding your true love in the free ebook – right here!

Love in 2021

Posted on January 4, 2021

Are you ready for love in 2021?

Everything, including love, changes throughout your life.

You’ll progress through different stages and as you do your relationships and love will change too.

There are at least four phases you might progress through. These include:

• Student phase – during which you learn about yourself and the world, where your energy expands from physical to mental

• Family and social phase – where you comprehend meaning from what you’ve learnt, where your energy expands and connects

• Contribution phase – where you apply the information you’ve learnt, where you give energy

• An integration phase – where you integrate yourself, and your energy, with the world around you.

These phases involve a transition from a focus on the physical, to the emotional then to the mind, spirit and finally to love.

Find out more about these stage, along with lots of practical tops on how to find love – all free. Click here.

SPECIAL BONUS – the meaning of life

Posted on January 4, 2021

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Why was I born?
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Posted on October 25, 2019

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The power of love

Posted on July 7, 2019

Did you know that love is an energy?

The fact that your energy cannot be destroyed means that it has to flow or be stored. The choice is yours.

When you store energy this can be as fat, a fixation on objects or a mental or emotional attachment to something or someone. This is why personal attachment to objects, events or people can cause suffering, as it stops your energy flowing.

You cannot store the energy of true love: it has to flow, which is why you have to give it, as giving love enables it to flow.

How you do that is up to you.

One of the best ways to get your energy flowing better is by doing what you do in a loving manner. By doing this you get it to flow more harmoniously. Remember, love is the reward for the bringing together, integration and harmonious flow of your energies.

To get your energy to flow harmoniously might mean that you may need to let things go, such as the past, regret and the like. You can either keep your energy flowing around and around the same old circuits or you can direct it to create new ones that might help it flow better.

Letting your energy flow from a place of love, living in a loving manner, is a good way to create new ways for it to flow.

Also, make sure that your energy, and love, is flowing in the right direction. For example, sometimes we get stressed and focus energy on the stress and end up being even more stressed.

Focus your energy Energy goes where attention flows.

Find out more in the free ebook – download it from this site now.

WHAT OTHERS SAY ABOUT LOVE

Posted on December 8, 2016

Much has been said of love: it is the subject of songs, poems, books, movies and more. Here are some comments from other people that we have found helpful:
• “You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams,” Dr. Seuss
• “The power of life is love,” Leo Tolstoy
• “A baby is born with a need to be loved—and never outgrows it,” Frank Clark
• “The hunger for love is much more difficult to remove than the hunger for bread,” Mother Teresa
• “Love one another and you will be happy. It’s as simple and as difficult as that,” Michael Leunig
• “To love is to receive a glimpse of heaven,” Karen Sunde
• “We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love,” Tom Robbins
• “God does not command that we do great things, only little things with great love,” Mother Teresa
• “We are entitled to receive only what we are prepared to give,” Gordon Livingstone
• “It is not how much we give, but how much love we put into giving,” Mother Teresa
• “Nothing in life is as complex or rewarding as our intimate relationships. We have all been through some of the deepest pains and greatest joys while connecting closely to another human being. Real love is the highest form of giving. And it is also where we achieve the most inner personal growth. Thus, to fully love another person is perhaps one of the most divine experiences on earth.” Sage & Anthony Robbins.