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Even with access to more information than ever before, we still have few answers to life’s big questions. We can find all sorts of information on the Internet, but still can’t find practical answers to life’s big questions of:
- Who am I?
- Why was I born?
- What should I be doing in life?
- What’s the meaning of my life?
- Is there life after death?
Despite our differences, these are questions we all ask and have been asking them for thousands of years. Yet there have been few objective answers to these big questions—until now.
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Much has been said of love: it is the subject of songs, poems, books, movies and more. Here are some comments from other people that we have found helpful:
• “You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams,” Dr. Seuss
• “The power of life is love,” Leo Tolstoy
• “A baby is born with a need to be loved—and never outgrows it,” Frank Clark
• “The hunger for love is much more difficult to remove than the hunger for bread,” Mother Teresa
• “Love one another and you will be happy. It’s as simple and as difficult as that,” Michael Leunig
• “To love is to receive a glimpse of heaven,” Karen Sunde
• “We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love,” Tom Robbins
• “God does not command that we do great things, only little things with great love,” Mother Teresa
• “We are entitled to receive only what we are prepared to give,” Gordon Livingstone
• “It is not how much we give, but how much love we put into giving,” Mother Teresa
• “Nothing in life is as complex or rewarding as our intimate relationships. We have all been through some of the deepest pains and greatest joys while connecting closely to another human being. Real love is the highest form of giving. And it is also where we achieve the most inner personal growth. Thus, to fully love another person is perhaps one of the most divine experiences on earth.” Sage & Anthony Robbins.
Depth and intimacy of connection is the difference between a friendship and a loving relationship.
If you can’t open your heart how do you expect someone else to open theirs?
If you open your heart and someone doesn’t open theirs, or can’t communicate well, you need to let them know. If you don’t open to each other you’ll remain acquaintances doing a dance of daily domestic life and never truly connect.
Seek to share your inner most self, your deepest dreams and desires, maybe even fears, with each other. Intimacy means there is no privacy. You open your heart, yourself.
When you share your inner most selves you create connections beyond the physical, beyond the mental. Creating such connections lifts your love out of the ordinary.
Try to see the many facets of others; try to know your partner’s inner most self, their inner most thoughts and feelings, their deepest stirrings. By doing this you’ll know your own deeper stirrings too.
You can never truly know your partner, as they – like you – are continually changing, growing and interacting. As thing continually change around and between you, you need to continually revisit and reconnect with each other.
To be truly together is forgiving and understanding that your partner is as human as you are. They’ll commit mistakes, just as you commit them. Accept their humanity with all the frailty you are prone to. Add a little forgiveness.
Above all, make them feel safe and secure with you. This is key. Just as you want to be with people who make your feel, certain, safe and secure; so too do others, especially your partner.
One reason for this is that finding and building such heartfelt connections with a partner enables your energy to not only flow, but to also expand. As it expands it can also create, it can create true love.
If you have a partner, be brave and ask her why things aren’t good between you.
Then listen – stop and listen.
One way to improve your listening skills – and let’s face it, most men can improve their listening skills – is to listen then say back to her what you think she said; then ask her whether you got it right. Ask for clarification. Ask how she feels or felt. Only when you truly understand the points and issues that concern her can you do something about them.
A woman doesn’t necessarily want someone, you, to do more housework, to do this or that. What she’s probably trying to do is to get you to understand her. As author Marianne Williamson says, a woman will be in emotional bondage as long as she needs to worry that she has to choose between being heard and being loved. Your partner needs both!
Once you have done this, tell her what you yourself feel. You need to open yourself and give some of your inner-most self, your heart, some energy back to her. Create those connections and intimacy by offering it first. This will also help her to feel and know more about you. More importantly, it will help her to start to trust you more. As you open up and reveal yourself she should feel safer and more secure.
One of the best ways to respond and give love energy to your partner is to tell them what you appreciate about them, what attracted you to them and what you adore about her (or him).
You can never say too many positive things, but can certainly not say enough!
Conveying a few kinds words a few times a day – be it in words, email or text – can show your partner that you are thinking about her and appreciate her (rather than take her for granted).
This can be one of the best, and easiest, ways to improve a relationship as it is one to help improve safety and security.
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“Love is … the only truly real and lasting experience of life. It is the opposite of fear, the essence of relationships, the core of creativity, the grace of power, an intricate part of who we are. It is the source of happiness, the energy that connects us and that lives within us. … Ultimately, it is the only thing we can really give.” – Elisabeth Kubler-Ross.
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All the best for 2016 for our friends and readers.
We hope you have a great year.
Remember, this time of year is about giving (not receiving), just like it is about love and relationships.
This can be as easy as giving someone a smile!
Keep that in mind and you will have a most joyous festive season!
PS – if you need to send a last minute gift – send our free e-book – it is the best way to give love! www.findtruelovebook.com
Here, in a nutshell, are the secrets we’ve found to finding true love:
- Realize there are several types of love – physical, mental, spiritual and true love.
- Love is not chemistry. It’s energy – in particular a flow of energy – this the saying ‘the power of love’.
- This means you’re not at the mercy of mechanical chemicals and not able to do anything. Rather, by better understanding energy you can understand how to find love.
- Determine why you want love? Do you want it to feel better, to be like your friends or because you want the noblest thing in life? Your relationship to love, how you think about it, is often a reflection of your relationship to yourself.
- Strong, true, relationships depend on strong self-awareness. If you don’t ‘love’ yourself how can you expect someone else to love you for who you are?!
- Find someone who’s energy adds to yours. Finding a partner whose ‘love energy’ adds to yours is like someone pushing you on a swing, it will go higher and higher.
- Don’t just focus on physical attraction and love. Ensure you add emotional, mental and spiritual love to your relationship and love making to create something even stronger.
- We each have five needs that have to be met for us to have a happy and successful life. Love and connection is just one of those needs. (See here for more details on these needs and how they relate to love).
- Find a partner who’ll help you fulfil those other needs and you’ll find true love – and the key to a successful relationship.
- You’ll know when you find true love as it’s when you partner values you for who you are and encourages you to be you and loves you for who you are (sometimes even despite who you are)!