Time to appreciate

One of the best ways to give love energy to your partner is to tell them what you appreciate about them, what attracted you to them and what you adore about her (or him).

You can never say too many positive things, but can certainly not say enough!

Conveying a few kinds words a few times a day – be it in words, email or text – can show your partner that you are thinking about her and appreciate her (rather than take her for granted).

This can be one of the best, and easiest, ways to improve a relationship as it is one to help improve safety and security.

Consideration is also important: you need to consider what impact your words and actions have on your partner. Don’t assume you know what she feels and think. Ask her or him!

BE AWARE that many of us have expectations of what we want our partner to be and try to make them into what that is. This is a huge mistake. Don’t try to make your partner into some they aren’t.
You need to appreciate and love your partner. Start by appreciating at least one aspect of them…
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Be true for true love

You need to connect with your inner most self, not your ego, to truly connect with another.
If you can’t be open and honest with yourself how will you ever be open with another?!
If you’re pretending to be a ‘different’ person to who you really are this not only takes a lot of effort and energy but you could find that someone falls in love with the image you’re projecting, rather than the true you.
Similarly, if you’re quite self-focused, or what others might call ‘full of yourself’ and your own self importance or ego you may have no room for anyone else.
Similarly, seek a partner who is considerate of others; not just themselves. If their focus is on themself and their needs how much energy will they place on considering you and your needs? If they can’t easily share their energy, themself with you you’ll have trouble finding and developing true love with them. Egotism negates the constructive energy of true love.
Tip Love requires transcending your ego. You need to connect with your inner most self, not your ego, in order to best connect with another.
Also realise that you don’t need to be perfect to be loved.
Secret   You have to be open and have room for a lover, for love.
Surprisingly, while some people seek love they also create barriers to receiving it. They want a fairytale prince to come and rescue them, fight for them – to make them worthy of love. Do you feel unworthy of love? Is the real reason why you want love to validate yourself? Many of us seek love for this reason.
Realise – and accept – that you are worthy, worthy of love!
Open yourself and be available to love. There is no reason to hide. This is an important aspect of finding your true love – or letting your true love find you.
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Words from another on love…

“Love is the ultimate and the highest goal to which man can aspire….The salvation of man is through love and in love. I understood how a man who has nothing left in this world still may know bliss, be it only for a brief moment, in the contemplation of his beloved.” – Dr Victor Frankl, wrote in Man’s Search for Meaning, first published in 1946.
So, as he also writes “When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves”.
“Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”
Chose to live with love, live lovingly. After-all, “The more one forgets himself — by giving himself to a cause to serve or another person to love — the more human he is and the more he actualizes himself. What is called self-actualization is not an attainable aim at all, for the simple reason that the more one would strive for it, the more he would miss it. In other words, self-actualization is possible only as a side-effect of self-transcendence.
“Love is the only way to grasp another human being in the innermost core of his personality. No one can become fully aware of the very essence of another human being unless he loves him,” said Frankl. Wise words indeed!

Overcoming emotional pain

When you’re feeling emotional pain, try this secret short-cut. Rather than try to resolve the conflicting emotion as soon as you can, sense it, then try to balance it by turning your thoughts towards love. Sense a great moment of love in your life and recall it. What you’re doing is using the power of love to balance those conflicting emotions. This is one of the greatest gifts of love, its ability to bring things together – it’s like a ‘reset’ button on a computer that helps rebalance your energy, rebalance you. This is why many of us seek physical love (sex, orgasm, self pleasure) as it’s one way we instinctively rebalance our energy. You can also do this with just your thoughts.
Rather than get stuck on some emotion, to someone or something; let it go, let the energy flow. (This echoes scriptures and spiritual writings about self-forgiveness, forgiveness of others.)
Remember, you’re aiming for your energy to flow, expand and balance.
Also consider how much energy you’re putting into love at present?
You’re already putting a lot of physical energy into going to work, paying the bills and so on. But are you putting enough energy into your love?
Consider, how often do you talk and for how long? Are these superficial conversations about domestic issues, household chores and the like or are they deeper conversation about you and your partner, your dreams, fears and desires?
Listen to yourself, your emotions, your energy in action, and what they’re trying to tell you.[1]
The energy of love is already inside you.
The next secret reveals ways to unleash this energy and direct it towards true love.
[1] The struggle between thoughts and emotions cannot be resolved by the mind gaining dominance over emotions, or vice versa, but rather by increasing the harmonious balance between the two.

When having trouble…

Love and energy are continually trying to balance.  This balance changes over time, due to the pressures of daily life, of children, work and the like.
Often couples leave that balancing to fate. Don’t!
When in this stage the key is to get your energies flowing again and to expand, then try to rebalance them better together.
To do this, expand your love energy to new areas where you can reconnect. You, both of you, need to give love and give unconditionally.
This may seem like the last thing you want to do when you’re having relationship trouble. But it’s at this time that you need to do the very opposite of what you feel and focus on your partner and give love energy.
Compassion – This is where you share and connect your inner most selves, your hearts, and is the home of true love.