A business-like approach to love

A head-hunter friend of ours, who teaches big companies that when they’re recruiting people they should hire those who best fit their culture, who embody the ideals of the organization.
She coaches them on how to employ people who are prepared to work together with others to achieve a common objective. They might not have the same personality type, not even the same views, but they are able to band with others and work together.
Look at potential partners in this way:
– do they have similar ideals to you;
– do they think of others and work together with them?
– do they take control and direct or do everything on their own?
Ask them what their views are on love, on true love, and how they’ve gone about finding it?
Do they have the same ideals and approach as you?
Love is not as scarce a commodity as it has often been made out to be. There’s plenty of love energy to go around. We all want it. We all have it to give.
So turn the traditional approach to finding love around and start by looking ‘top’ down. It’s the person inside, their soul, that you’re trying to determine how they might connect with yours. True love is where you connect with another on all levels – physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually (in terms of energy rather than religion).
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Happy Valentine's Day

Where ever you are this Valentine’s Day remember that you are loved.
There is always someone who loves you!
Maybe not as and as much as you’d like…
…which is why we wrote out book – so that you can find the love you deserve without making the mistakes we did.
Download it now here and get started on the journey – or reread it if you have already downloaded.
Love – Kris & Guy.

Finding true love starts with you

Instead of trying to find someone who will love you, start by making yourself more loving.
Stop worrying what everyone else thinks of you. What do you think of yourself?
Unless you can find warmth, happiness and love in your relationship with yourself you’ll struggle to find these in your relationships with others. If you can’t be nice to yourself, or nice to those around you, how are you going to be nice to someone whom you’re attracted and would like to be nice back to you?
You’re the only one who can control your love energy. Before you enter a relationship you should have your own energy flowing well and balanced.
Start by caring about yourself, or as some people say “love yourself first”.iStock_000004938973XSmall
Don’t be hard on yourself, be soft and gentle towards yourself.
Learn to accept yourself, your own short comings.
Learn how to forgive yourself, again and again and again.
Learn to give to yourself, to let things go, to let your energy flow.
Being single doesn’t mean you have to be lonely or without love. It’s simply not true that you cannot have love without a partner. You can have love even if you are on your own.
Fall in love with the life you have. Enjoy your own company. If you can you won’t feel so lonely.
Most people search for love outside themselves.
For example, some people believe they will be happier “if” they do this or will be perfect if they get that; “if” they become like everyone else (whom they assume are actually happy themselves). This is why some of us believe that getting married will make us happy.
If you are unhappy and single, you could well be unhappy and married!
Marriage is not a solution to personal, psychological or emotional problems. Rather, marriage exacerbates them.
If you are an unhappy single person, you will be an unhappy spouse.
If you are not happy with yourself and your life before marriage, work on making your single self happy first. Then any marriage will have a much better chance of success.

WHY ARE YOU ATTRACTED TO PEOPLE WHO ARE 'BAD' FOLR YOU?

Many of us carry around an ideal in our minds of the perfect partner we seek. Sometimes this is a fantasy that’s just a mirror image of ourselves, of all the qualities we lack.
What’s the person you desire like?
Are you generally attracted to people similar to you, those a little different, or those who are the opposite?
We are often subconsciously attracted to someone to improve and balance our relationship with our inner self (balance our own energy).
Consider how if you’re a ‘good’ person, do you really want a ‘bad’ person to ‘balance’ the good in you, in your relationship?
Yet, some people seem to keep dating ‘bad’ boys or girls. If you seek someone opposite to you there can be a big imbalance that can be hard to reconcile.
This is a big issue to be aware of – and to avoid. One of our daughters once told us and some friends that a young boy who asked her out was “too nice” to keep dating. We all gasped in horror given our personal experience encountered in dating ‘bad’ boys and girls and quickly told her that the ‘good’ boys cause less heartache and were the ones that she ultimately wanted for the long-term.
While there are a range of reasons why many of us are attracted to not so nice people, it’s key to realise that love does not change a person. If you aren’t happy with the way your partner is now don’t get married. Never marry potential.
True love is loving someone just the way they are; not wanting to change or ‘fix’ them.
True love is not a spouse renovation project.
Download the free ebook here – there’s lots of free tips to help you find your true love (and keep them!)

LOVE IS EVERYWHERE

Love is not as scarce a commodity as it is often been made out to be. There’s plenty of love energy to go around. We all want it.
We all have it to give.
Turn the traditional approach to finding love around and start by looking ‘top’ down.
Remember, it’s the person inside, their soul, that you’re trying to determine how they might connect with yours. True love is where you connect with another on all levels – physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually (in terms of energy rather than religion).
How do you do this?
Take the approach of a head-hunter friend of ours, who teaches big companies that when they’re recruiting people they should hire those who best fit their culture, who embody the ideals of the organization. She coaches them on how to employ people who are prepared to work together with others to achieve a common objective. They might not have the same personality type, not even the same views, but they are able to band with others and work together.
Look at potential partners in this way: do they have similar ideals to you; do they think of others and work together with them? Or do they take control and direct or do everything on their own?
Ask them what their views are on love, on true love, and how they’ve gone about finding it? Do they have the same ideals and approach as you?
Tip – Some of the best advice we’ve heard about how to find a potential partner is to seek someone who is similar to you.

WHAT LOVE DO YOU WANT?

What type of partner do you really want, what attributes attract you? Do you have a list of what you’re seeking?
Most people’s lists contain physical attributes they desire, such as physical looks, in a potential partner. That’s fine, if all you want is a physical relationship.
Does your list include any mental attributes; such as wanting a companion who can converse and is caring, warm, loving?
Does it include any spiritual ones? If not, why not?
A better approach is to turn this around and list what you have to offer a potential partner.
What do you think is your best physical attribute? What’s your best emotional attribute, your best mental and spiritual features?
Would a potential partner be able to easily recognise these?
What would a potential partner love most about you right now? Is this what you want to be loved for? Do you want someone with similar attributes? What do you have to give them right now? Do you have love to give?
Or are you giving love to get love?!
Learn more with the free-ebook! Get it now.

What do you focus on?

What’s your greatest fear – and why? (Some of the best marketing techniques work by playing on your fears, such as you’ll suffer or cannot survive without this product or service. Studies have proven that creating a fear of loss is more effective in marketing than appealing to desire or greed. People care twice as much about avoiding losses as they do about making gains.)
Are you defined by your fears and what you avoid, rather than by love?
Be careful where you focus your energy. Focus it on love.

Looking for your soul mate?

First start with what is your soul.
Souls are generally described as being eternal, everlasting – and science says there is only thing that is eternal – that is energy!
This suggests that your soul is the way energy flows and interacts within you. This is similar to how your personality and character are now recognised as being comprised of energy patterns within you.
Another way to think of your soul is a little like computer software running on the hardware of your body. If the software programs, or patterns, are corrupted your computer and its output will not function as well as it could.
Just like software, your energy patterns – your soul – can be upgraded and improved. You can change and improve them by adding energy, adding learning and experience.
How your energy meshes is in a large part up to you: you can direct and control how it flows, expands and balances.
If your energies are flowing together harmoniously, expanding and balancing so too will your soul – and love.
The fact that you can consciously alter your energy differentiates you from everything else in the universe. It echoes those scriptures that encourage you to improve your soul to enter a greater realm.
This is one you will definitely want to learn more about in the free book – so download it now.

Time to appreciate

One of the best ways to give love energy to your partner is to tell them what you appreciate about them, what attracted you to them and what you adore about her (or him).

You can never say too many positive things, but can certainly not say enough!

Conveying a few kinds words a few times a day – be it in words, email or text – can show your partner that you are thinking about her and appreciate her (rather than take her for granted).

This can be one of the best, and easiest, ways to improve a relationship as it is one to help improve safety and security.

Consideration is also important: you need to consider what impact your words and actions have on your partner. Don’t assume you know what she feels and think. Ask her or him!

BE AWARE that many of us have expectations of what we want our partner to be and try to make them into what that is. This is a huge mistake. Don’t try to make your partner into some they aren’t.
You need to appreciate and love your partner. Start by appreciating at least one aspect of them…
…download the book to find out more details – it’s free now.

Be true for true love

You need to connect with your inner most self, not your ego, to truly connect with another.
If you can’t be open and honest with yourself how will you ever be open with another?!
If you’re pretending to be a ‘different’ person to who you really are this not only takes a lot of effort and energy but you could find that someone falls in love with the image you’re projecting, rather than the true you.
Similarly, if you’re quite self-focused, or what others might call ‘full of yourself’ and your own self importance or ego you may have no room for anyone else.
Similarly, seek a partner who is considerate of others; not just themselves. If their focus is on themself and their needs how much energy will they place on considering you and your needs? If they can’t easily share their energy, themself with you you’ll have trouble finding and developing true love with them. Egotism negates the constructive energy of true love.
Tip Love requires transcending your ego. You need to connect with your inner most self, not your ego, in order to best connect with another.
Also realise that you don’t need to be perfect to be loved.
Secret   You have to be open and have room for a lover, for love.
Surprisingly, while some people seek love they also create barriers to receiving it. They want a fairytale prince to come and rescue them, fight for them – to make them worthy of love. Do you feel unworthy of love? Is the real reason why you want love to validate yourself? Many of us seek love for this reason.
Realise – and accept – that you are worthy, worthy of love!
Open yourself and be available to love. There is no reason to hide. This is an important aspect of finding your true love – or letting your true love find you.
Download the book – it’s free – to find out more. It really is that simple. P - Key