To help us get all through COVID, we’re offering a special bonus – giving away our book THE ULTIMATE MEANING OF LIFE.
Even with access to more information than ever before, we still have few answers to life’s big questions. We can find all sorts of information on the Internet, but still can’t find practical answers to life’s big questions of:
- Who am I?
- Why was I born?
- What should I be doing in life?
- What’s the meaning of my life?
- Is there life after death?
Despite our differences, these are questions we all ask and have been asking them for thousands of years. Yet there have been few objective answers to these big questions—until now.
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Author and psychologist Gordon Livingstone suggests there are several virtues that we seek in our partners. They include:
Do you have them in you?
Do you see all of them in your partner?
The biological anthropologist Helen Fisher also suggests that understanding who you are is key to understanding to whom you’re attracted.
For more checklists, read the free-ebook on our site. ENJOY!
As life changes you need to find ways to not necessarily change, but rather expand and grow love. We often say to each other not to think of it as a need to change, but rather expand.
The only way you can do that is by connecting, continually connecting, deeper and deeper. You can only take your existing love towards true love by sharing your true self with your partner.
To do this, you need to feel and know who you are, know that you’re safe and secure with your partner, to be able to share yourself with them without fearing that they’ll use what you share against you, won’t hurt you.
Only then can you both share your greatest fears, your greatest desires – your selves.How well do you know your partner? Do you know and understand their fears, what they seek from life?
Often we don’t really know how our partner really feels. You assume you know, which is a big mistake. Ask them how they feel, truly feel.
As such, you shouldn’t just want to know your partner’s favourite colour, number or song; you should seek to know their greatest fears. Then help them overcome their fears and realise their dreams. Explore, experience and relate again; start again.
Try to connect more. To do so you will require improving safety and security, improving trust. One way to do this is for you to start to share your inner-most essence; show how you are. What motivates, as well as concerns, you.
Sharing secrets is considered one way to create intimacy and connections. One study found that when strangers were asked to reveal intimate details about their lives to one another and then made to stare into each other’s eyes that many of them reported feelings of strong attraction to each other.
There are a range of other techniques you can use – see more in the free e-book here.
Where ever you are this Valentine’s Day remember that you are loved.
There is always someone who loves you!
Maybe not as and as much as you’d like…
…which is why we wrote out book – so that you can find the love you deserve without making the mistakes we did.
Download it now here and get started on the journey – or reread it if you have already downloaded.
Love – Kris & Guy.
A major reason for the pain, the ups and downs, is often related to why you want love and how you go about finding it.
The ancient Greek philosopher Epicurus suggested that pain is at one end of a scale with pleasure at the other – and that most of us swing between the two. Most people seek pleasure, seek love, to cover pain. (Researchers at the University of Michigan found some emotional pain is conveyed along the same nerve pathways as physical pain and is one reason why the pain of heartbreak seems as real as an actual injury.)
The ancient philosopher was almost right: love is indeed a matter of balance, in particular balancing your energy.
Swings in your emotions (energy in motion) are showing you that your energy is trying to balance but is having trouble.
When you are in pain it’s generally a sign that you need to get your energy flowing, expanding and balancing.
A major cause of problems and pain is that your view of the world doesn’t match reality; that what you’re experiencing doesn’t match what you believe, feel or think. For example, if someone says they love you but their actions suggest otherwise this will create chaos in your thoughts (brain waves or EEGs) and emotions (heart waves or ECGs) and pain can result as you try to reconcile the difference.
Another cause of emotional pain is uncertainty and fear. It’s easy to get caught in this pattern of reliance on another to make you feel better. But this is a short-term solution.
Another cause of pain is perceptions and responses to what has happened in the past. Be careful that when you enter a new relationship that you don’t bring ‘baggage’, or energy patterns, from previous ones. Even though you might think you’ve left it behind you may have not.
Is an emotion trying to tell you something right now?
This blog is telling you to find more in the book – download it free now – www.findtruelovebook.com
(Some people ask why give away all these tips free? Simple – don’t make the same mistakes we did, learn from ours – we did. And doesn’t the world need a little more love right now!)