What love?

Many people think there’s just one type of love.
There are several, and quite different, types of love. You need to be aware of the different types to find true love. They include:
• Physical
• Mental
• Spiritual
• True love – which encompasses all the above.
Which of these have you experienced?
You already know physical love, as it’s the type you see all around you everyday, on television, in books and in movies.
When you’re young, you’re attracted to physical attributes of people, to looks and bodies and spend a great amount of time and effort trying to explore these.
Also, there’s no denying the power of the physical biology of love: our bodies are designed to reproduce. You were likely taught about this at school and gossiped about it with friends. Marketers also use this type of love to sell things to you, so you have this type of love pushed to you all the time. You’re led to believe that you must have it or you’re missing out and will suffer. This has also distorted much thinking about love.
Once you experience and somewhat understand the physical aspects of love, you might realise that there’s something more, that there’s a ‘mental’ or social form of love.
Mental love is where you want loving companionship, conversation and friendship as much, if not more, than the physical aspects of love. It’s why and how you seek relationships with friends, family and a special partner.
Find out more about the other types by downloading the book – it’s free. (we just want to share what we have learnt about love to make life easier for all of us).

Are you loving?

Realise there’s more than the physical in front of you, more than the mental and emotional elements inside of you. There’s also the power of love. Tune into it and realise what you are capable of.
If you can give love, then you have something to offer potential partners (or keep an existing partner with you).
You’ll have something that can attract true love to you. For example, one reason most people want love is so that they can feel better. If you can make other people feel better, happier, loved for who they are, they’ll want to be with you.
As many scriptures say, you reap what you sow.
What sort of love are you giving now?


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Here’s the best one you can give – the gift of true love.
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Happy Valentine to you and yours!
Kris & Guy

When having trouble…

Love and energy are continually trying to balance.  This balance changes over time, due to the pressures of daily life, of children, work and the like.
Often couples leave that balancing to fate. Don’t!
When in this stage the key is to get your energies flowing again and to expand, then try to rebalance them better together.
To do this, expand your love energy to new areas where you can reconnect. You, both of you, need to give love and give unconditionally.
This may seem like the last thing you want to do when you’re having relationship trouble. But it’s at this time that you need to do the very opposite of what you feel and focus on your partner and give love energy.
Compassion – This is where you share and connect your inner most selves, your hearts, and is the home of true love.

Love or friendship?

Depth and intimacy of connection is the difference between a friendship and a loving relationship.
If you can’t open your heart how do you expect someone else to open theirs?
If you open your heart and someone doesn’t open theirs, or can’t communicate well, you need to let them know. If you don’t open to each other you’ll remain acquaintances doing a dance of daily domestic life and never truly connect.
Seek to share your inner most self, your deepest dreams and desires, maybe even fears, with each other. Intimacy means there is no privacy. You open your heart, yourself.
When you share your inner most selves you create connections beyond the physical, beyond the mental. Creating such connections lifts your love out of the ordinary.
Try to see the many facets of others; try to know your partner’s inner most self, their inner most thoughts and feelings, their deepest stirrings. By doing this you’ll know your own deeper stirrings too.
You can never truly know your partner, as they – like you – are continually changing, growing and interacting. As thing continually change around and between you, you need to continually revisit and reconnect with each other.
To be truly together is forgiving and understanding that your partner is as human as you are. They’ll commit mistakes, just as you commit them. Accept their humanity with all the frailty you are prone to. Add a little forgiveness.
Above all, make them feel safe and secure with you. This is key. Just as you want to be with people who make your feel, certain, safe and secure; so too do others, especially your partner.
One reason for this is that finding and building such heartfelt connections with a partner enables your energy to not only flow, but to also expand. As it expands it can also create, it can create true love.

How to improve a relationship

If you have a partner, be brave and ask her why things aren’t good between you.
Then listen – stop and listen.
One way to improve your listening skills – and let’s face it, most men can improve their listening skills – is to listen then say back to her what you think she said; then ask her whether you got it right. Ask for clarification. Ask how she feels or felt. Only when you truly understand the points and issues that concern her can you do something about them.
A woman doesn’t necessarily want someone, you, to do more housework, to do this or that. What she’s probably trying to do is to get you to understand her. As author Marianne Williamson says, a woman will be in emotional bondage as long as she needs to worry that she has to choose between being heard and being loved. Your partner needs both!
Once you have done this, tell her what you yourself feel. You need to open yourself and give some of your inner-most self, your heart, some energy back to her. Create those connections and intimacy by offering it first. This will also help her to feel and know more about you. More importantly, it will help her to start to trust you more. As you open up and reveal yourself she should feel safer and more secure.
One of the best ways to respond and give love energy to your partner is to tell them what you appreciate about them, what attracted you to them and what you adore about her (or him).
You can never say too many positive things, but can certainly not say enough!
Conveying a few kinds words a few times a day – be it in words, email or text – can show your partner that you are thinking about her and appreciate her (rather than take her for granted).
This can be one of the best, and easiest, ways to improve a relationship as it is one to help improve safety and security.
Find more free tips by downloading the book now.

Love is…a gift

“Love is … the only truly real and lasting experience of life. It is the opposite of fear, the essence of relationships, the core of creativity, the grace of power, an intricate part of who we are. It is the source of happiness, the energy that connects us and that lives within us. … Ultimately, it is the only thing we can really give.” – Elisabeth Kubler-Ross.
We’re giving away our book free online for a limited time – so get it now at www.findtruelovebook.com – after all, love is the best thing we can give the world and this is our gift to you.

Giving love

All the best for 2016 for our friends and readers.
We hope you have a great year.
Remember, this time of year is about giving (not receiving), just like it is about love and relationships.
This can be as easy as giving someone a smile!
Keep that in mind and you will have a most joyous festive season!
PS – if you need to send a last minute gift – send our free e-book – it is the best way to give love! www.findtruelovebook.com

What do you do?

Actions speak louder than words, especially for men. A man will notice what a woman does much more than what she says. He may also notice what she doesn’t do, but rarely will he notice what she doesn’t say.
Ideally, actions and words should match, just as the energy behind them should be focused and flow harmoniously.
If the words, actions and energy don’t match and flow together, question your partner as to why they don’t. Discuss what both of you are going to do about it.
Couples must also be committed to making the partnership their top priority. Make your love and your partner your priority so that’s where you energy flows, rather to less important things.
Do you hold your partner’s hand regularly? If not, why not? Try it. It is a simple but effective form of connection.
Discuss how you might be able to expand to reconnect at these simple levels, levels where you act and demonstrate that you are connected.
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