Do you take care of your partner?

Taking Care of Your Partner’s Needs

There are several key needs we each require to be fulfilled in our life – and in relationships.
If yours doesn’t help you meet these, it will more than likely run into trouble at some stage.
Accordingly, you need to determine if your partner will help you meet these needs. For example, we each obviously need basic physical things such as water, food, money and shelter for simple survival.
However, once you obtain these basic necessities together, you’ll find that you need several other key needs, such as safety and security.
Many of us try to meet these needs by getting married, obtaining a good job to provide money for somewhere to live and a car and a house. But that is not always enough: what you also need to consider is does your partner make you feel emotionally and mentally safe and secure? Ways to determine this are to consider:
• do you want the same things out of life?
• does your partner have similar attitudes, goals and growth plans? (Answer no if they like doing things completely different, or worse still, doing lots of things without you).
• do you respect and believe in each other?
• do you consistently develop win–win solutions to problems?
• does your partner make you feel emotionally and mentally safe and secure?
Again, you want mostly ‘yes’ answers to these questions for any relationship, let alone marriage, to be successful.

How do you connect?

Connecting with Your True Love

Unfortunately, today’s modern lifestyle sees more of us connect less than ever before.
Mobile phones and texts, the internet and emails, sees people communicate indirectly rather than in person.
But it’s through personal connection that you meet people and find out with whom you can connect best.
A 2011 survey by Relationships Australia found the majority of people met their partners:
• through friends,
• at social occasions, or
• at work.
Only 4% met their partner online.
It also noted the main challenge to finding a partner is meeting enough new people.
As the adage suggests, it takes a lot of kissing frogs to find a prince.
It can be challenging – even painful – meeting, dating and realising that someone is not quite the person you seek and then breaking up with them.
Dealing with other people is the hardest thing you will ever do. The first person to climb Mt. Everest, Sir Edmund Hilary, said this was harder for him than climbing the world’s tallest mountain, he once told Guy. But you have to do it to meet people.
It is that simple and that hard.
Remember the anonymous quote that says “great love and great achievements involve great risk”.
How much of yourself are you prepared to risk?
You need to be active, courageous and willing to talk to people. You need to be brave and risk rejection!
You need to get out there, meet and talk to people, connect with people.
When talking to someone ask them about themselves; people generally like to be asked and talk about themselves. Use this to your advantage by asking a question or two to get a conversation going. Then listen. Then try to sense if there is any connection; how does their energy flow and interact with yours?

Give love- but not to get

Learn how to give love

To move on, to turn your love life around, turn around your focus on love. Don’t focus on getting it, focus on giving it.
A major part of this secret is to realise that progressing from romantic towards true love is not about getting more love, not even doing more things to get love for your self, but about giving love.
The way to do this is to find the ‘love energy’ that you already have within you and help it flow outwards towards others, in the most harmonious way possible.
That energy is there within you, somewhere.
Realise there’s more than the physical in front of you, more than the mental and emotional elements inside of you. There’s also the power of love. Tune into it and realise what you are capable of.
If you can give love, then you have something to offer potential partners (or keep an existing partner with you).
You’ll have something that can attract true love to you.
For example, one reason most people want love is so that they can feel better. If you can make other people feel better, happier, loved for who they are, they’ll want to be with you.
As many scriptures say, you reap what you sow.
What sort of love are you giving now?

Add more power to your love life

If you’re not paying attention to your partner then they’ll not be receiving energy from you, they might even be losing energy, given all the distractions of everyday life.
Why would they want to be with someone who weakens their energy?
Instead, the more energy you focus on your partner, the truer your love can become. This energy can be in the form of words, attention, actions, spirit or love.
This is one of the greatest and easiest secrets of love – focusing attention and energy on your partner will improve your love.
It’s a matter of finding that right energy, right pattern, right love that adds harmoniously to yours.
Interestingly, some people try to get more energy or ‘power’ for themselves by taking it from others. You don’t have to compete for energy!
Both science and scriptures tell us that it’s limitless; that there’s more than enough energy to go around.
Realise this and stop competing for power or trying to take it. You don’t have to compete, to buy objects to show how much ‘power’ you have.
Real power is to be found in developing a level of inner peace and communion with your energy that cannot be shaken by the ups and down of daily life.

Questions to ask on a date #3

To learn more about who your date is consider asking:

  • What would you rescue from your house first if it caught fire (after people and pets) and why?
  • If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, what would you want to know?
  • Would you like to be famous – why?
  • Are you truly single – no ex lurking in the shadows, etc?
  • Are you emotionally and financially stable (not an alcoholic or gambler)?
  • Do you have a criminal record? (a simple but important one)
  • How do you feel about your relationship with your mother, your family?
  • What are your religious views?
  • What are your views on love and sex? P - key small

 

Questions to ask your next date #3

Will you feel safer and secure with this person? To help assess this consider determining:
• Does your date turn up on time and go out of their way for your dates?
• Does your date’s actions reflect their words? Do they do what you say they’re going to do?
• Ask your date what they value most in a friendship or what do you think are the qualities of a great relationship?
• Ask what were they at school – the geek, bully or jock? Why?
• What is their greatest neurosis? What does it stem from? How do they manage it?
• Are they generous? (If they are mean with their money, they maybe tight or mean with their emotions too).
• Are they kind?
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Questions to ask your next date #2

When out on your next date, trying to find ‘the one’ and it is going well, consider asking something like….
• What are you most grateful for in life?
• What is your greatest accomplishment or what are you most proud of? Why?
• What is the most important thing you feel a partner never understood about you?
When you have finished, assess how you feel about them.
• Will they help you meet the day-to-day needs of life?
• Do you respect and trust them?
• Will you feel safe and secure with them if they were your partner?
• Do you like them as a person?
• Do you have fun together? Do they make you laugh? Can you be silly together?
• Will you be able to grow with them?
• Will they support your own growth?
• Will you support theirs?
• How do they treat others? Do they put you first?
Conclude by telling your date what you admire about them from what you know already so they don’t feel like they’ve just been through the inquisition!
This will help you determine whether this person help you grow and realize your dreams – or hinder them.
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How do you connect?

Another secret of true love is to not look for differences, but rather to create connections.
What do you tend to do? Do you focus on differences between you and others? If you look for and focus on differences that’s what you’ll find. Or do you seek and build connections? Look for things in common then you’ll find them.
How do you connect?
Unfortunately, today’s modern lifestyle sees more of us connect less than ever before. Mobile phones and texts, the internet and emails, sees people communicate indirectly rather than in person.
But it’s through personal connection that you meet people and find out with whom you can connect best. A 2011 survey by Relationships Australia found the majority of people met their partners:
• through friends,
• at social occasions, or
• at work.
It also noted the main challenge to finding a partner is meeting enough new people. As the adage suggests, it takes a lot of kissing frogs to find a prince.
It can be challenging – even painful – meeting, dating and realising that someone is not quite the person you seek and then breaking up with them. Dealing with other people is the hardest thing you will ever do. The first person to climb Mt. Everest, Sir Edmund Hilary, told me this was harder for him than climbing the world’s tallest mountain. But you have to do it to meet people.
It is that simple and that hard. Remember the anonymous quote that says “great love and great achievements involve great risk”.
How much of yourself are you prepared to risk? You need to be active, courageous and willing to talk to people. You need to be brave and risk rejection!
You need to get out there, meet and talk to people, connect with people.
When talking to someone ask them about themselves; people generally like to be asked and talk about themselves. Use this to your advantage by asking a question or two to get a conversation going. Then listen. Then try to sense if there is any connection.

Giving and taking love – which one?

If something is missing from within you, you’ll likely not find it elsewhere.
Is someone else really going to be able to provide what you are lacking, to better fix your problems?

Accordingly, you need to truly look at yourself and what gaps you’re trying to fill within you.
If you want intimacy, you have to be open and honest with yourself.
You have to create an environment where you and your partner feel safe to provide it, to give it, to receive it.
If you want love, you first have to be able to give it.
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Take the guesswork out of dating

There’s a way to take the guesswork out of dating…
Always try to date someone better than the best date you’ve ever had. In other words, don’t just date for the sake of it.
While this sounds like comparative common-sense it’s also scientifically proven, with statistics showing that if you pick someone too early you risk making a decision without checking out all the available options. While if you wait too long to select a partner, then the available pool will only have a few candidates to pick from.
So what’s the optimum number of dates or the optimum time to settle down? It’s not age, not even number of partners but rather the amount of knowledge you have about love that’s most important.
If you know and understand what love is, especially why you want love, then you can more quickly assess potential partners. You can more quickly determine – and decline – those whom won’t work out, allowing you more time to spend with those who might. This can also help you avoid staying in relationships that are not right for you.
Knowing about love provides a competitive advantage.
You’d research, learn, inspect and do tests before you bought an expensive car or house – so why wouldn’t you do the same before choosing a life partner?