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Something different – would you?
A French woman recently become engaged to a 3D printed robot she designed – read more here.
A Chinese engineer married a robot of his own making – find out more here.
A Japanese man married a hologram – see here.
A US study showed that 40% of Americans would have sex with a robot – see here.
Would you?
– thanks to the World Future Society.
– thanks to the World Future Society.
What's on your list?
Do you realise that you have a whole range of emotional needs?
Willard Harley suggests you look for someone who can provide you with:
• Admiration
• Affection
• Conversation
• Domestic support
• Family commitment
• Financial support
• Honesty and openness
• Physical attractiveness
• Sexual fulfilment
• Recreational companionship.
He adds a relationship has a better chance of not only surviving, but thriving, if you and your partner each rank these in the same order of priority.
Meanwhile, author and psychologist Gordon Livingstone suggests there are 10 virtues that we seek in our partners. They include:
• Kindness
• Optimism
• Courage
• Loyalty
• Tolerance
• Flexibility
• Beauty
• Humour
• Honesty
• Intelligence.
Do you have them in you? Do you see all of them in your partner?
Find out more about them in the free book – can you find it on the site?
LOVE CAN BE TOUGH
Some days it easy.
Some days it is hard (as life and baggage gets in the way).
Some days it is hard (as life and baggage gets in the way).
A key is to keep loving.
And to keep learning – as in this great free book.
Highly recommended and free to download for a limited time.
Highly recommended and free to download for a limited time.
ENJOY learning more about love.
WISHING YOU LOVE IN 2019
Do you ‘need’ love?
If so, it’s not a love that’s expanding, flowing or balanced – it’s not true love.
Rather, you’re trying to fill a gap in the energy within you. Once you realize that, you can fill that gap and move on.
To move on, to turn your love life around, turn around your focus on love.
Don’t focus on getting it, focus on giving it!
A major part of this secret is to realize that progressing from romantic towards true love is not about getting more love, not even doing more things to get love for your self, but about giving love!
The way to do this is to find the love energy that you already have within you and help it flow outwards towards others in the most harmonious way possible. That energy is there within you, somewhere.
Realize there’s more than the physical in front of you, more than the mental and emotional elements inside of you. There’s also the power of love. Tune into it and realize what you are capable of.
If you can give love, then you have something to offer potential partners (or keep an existing partner with you).
You’ll have something that can attract true love to you. For example, one reason most people want love is so that they can feel better. If you can make other people feel better, happier, loved for whom they are, they’ll want to be with you.
What sort of love are you giving now?
Find out many more secrets to true love in the ebook – free to download for a limited time…
How to handle the pain of love
Emotions – such as pain – are energy in motion (e-motion) and try to compel you to take action. Is an emotion trying to tell you something right now?
When you feel a strong emotion, stop and figure out what it is trying to tell you. Ask yourself questions, such as why you are angry or fearful in the first place, why you were unable to be more ‘loving’. Was it something real or your perception.
Once you recognise what information that emotion, that energy, is trying to communicate to you, you can then do something about it. Energy is neither good nor bad; it’s how energy patterns build upon one another or become chaotic that makes you perceive something as good or bad, pleasurable or painful. Find a way to replace them with healthier emotions, with a better flow of energy.
The laws of science show that things balance-out over the long-term; so if you’ve had a hard time and felt down lately prepare for things to rebound and improve. If your past has been ‘bad’ your future can be good. (Though you might have to learn how to change what you’ve done previously so that things can change in the future.)
While it can be hard to leave behind baggage and heal the hurt we’ve each experienced and have inside, embrace what has been and how it has made you stronger. Then consider what is required for you to ‘move on’.
Remember attachment stops energy flowing and (as Buddha said) attachment creates suffering. Emotions and love need to flow.
The ‘flow’ of love is a key, a major secret to finding it. Learn more, much more. Download the book – free for a limited time.
Interesting guest article
We try to also bring you interesting findings and research from others.
This study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology entitled “Men and Women are from Earth” rejects the categorical differences between the sexes, arguing that such differences are conditioned behaviour rather than inherent, hardwired attributes.
The research analysed 122 different characteristics in 13,301 individuals: empathy, fear of success, intimacy, relationship interdependence, sexual attitudes, interest in science, masculinity-femininity, mate preferences, etc. It found no consistent correlation between gender and these attributes.
“Sex is not nearly as confining a category as stereotypes and even some academic studies would have us believe,” the study concluded.
It also has some interesting advice on love and dating. See more here in this newspaper article.
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Author and psychologist Gordon Livingstone suggests there are several virtues that we seek in our partners. They include:
Kindness- Optimism
- Courage
- Loyalty
- Tolerance
- Flexibility
- Beauty
- Humour
- Honesty
Do you have them in you?
Do you see all of them in your partner?
The biological anthropologist Helen Fisher also suggests that understanding who you are is key to understanding to whom you’re attracted.
For more checklists, read the free-ebook on our site. ENJOY!
How to keep up with change
As life changes you need to find ways to not necessarily change, but rather expand and grow love. We often say to each other not to think of it as a need to change, but rather expand.
The only way you can do that is by connecting, continually connecting, deeper and deeper. You can only take your existing love towards true love by sharing your true self with your partner.
To do this, you need to feel and know who you are, know that you’re safe and secure with your partner, to be able to share yourself with them without fearing that they’ll use what you share against you, won’t hurt you.
Only then can you both share your greatest fears, your greatest desires – your selves.How well do you know your partner? Do you know and understand their fears, what they seek from life?
Often we don’t really know how our partner really feels. You assume you know, which is a big mistake. Ask them how they feel, truly feel.
As such, you shouldn’t just want to know your partner’s favourite colour, number or song; you should seek to know their greatest fears. Then help them overcome their fears and realise their dreams. Explore, experience and relate again; start again.
Try to connect more. To do so you will require improving safety and security, improving trust. One way to do this is for you to start to share your inner-most essence; show how you are. What motivates, as well as concerns, you.
Sharing secrets is considered one way to create intimacy and connections. One study found that when strangers were asked to reveal intimate details about their lives to one another and then made to stare into each other’s eyes that many of them reported feelings of strong attraction to each other.
There are a range of other techniques you can use – see more in the free e-book here.
HOW DOES YOUR LOVE GROW?
If you’re in a relationship and your partner lets you grow – even if they don’t actively encourage it – you’ll most likely remain with them. You might do this even if they exert control over or abuse you.
Whereas if they blatantly hinder or stop your personal growth you’ll most likely seek to escape.
A problem is that we often we seek other people, things and even objects, to help us grow. This is why working and having children are such a big part of life; they provide a form of validation, of worthiness, of meaning – and do so better than most other approaches. The only other thing that validates each of us more, makes life more meaningful, is love.
If you have a partner who validates you, appreciates you and what you do then you have an extraordinary love, a true love.
If your partner is not doing this for you, and this is where many relationships run into trouble, then you may begin to resent them. You may even seek someone whom you feel or think validates you, seemingly makes your life more worthwhile.
Do you seek a partner, or want your current partner if you have one, to do this for you – to accept you, approve you and solve your problems for you? Most of us want this, as it seems the easiest way to address our individual issues and make us feel worthy. See more here.