Do you know why you want love?
It’s important to figure this out.
Is it because you see it all around you, on television, in music, at the movies? Is it because you have friends ‘in love’, maybe some getting married or having babies? Do you want love because society tells you that you should have a boy or girlfriend, then get engaged, a wedding, and a house and mortgage then babies so that you fit in; because that’s what everyone else is doing? Or do you want love to feel better, to not feel alone?
These are all valid reasons to want to love.
However, have you noticed that with these reasons you’re aiming to be just like everyone else? Do you want to be like everybody else or do you want something greater?
One reason we make such mistakes is that many of us carry around an ideal in our minds of the perfect partner we seek. Sometimes this is a fantasy that’s just a mirror image of ourselves, of all the qualities we lack.
What’s the person you desire like?
Are you generally attracted to people similar to you, those a little different, or those who are the opposite?
We are often subconsciously attracted to someone to improve and balance our relationship with our inner self (balance our own energy).
Consider how if you’re a ‘good’ person, do you really want a ‘bad’ person to ‘balance’ the good in you, in your relationship?
Yet, some people seem to keep dating ‘bad’ boys or girls. If you seek someone opposite to you there can be a big imbalance that can be hard to reconcile.
This is a big issue to be aware of – and to avoid.