If something is missing from within you, you’ll likely not find it elsewhere.
Is someone else really going to be able to provide what you are lacking, to better fix your problems?
Accordingly, you need to truly look at yourself and what gaps you’re trying to fill within you.
If you want intimacy, you have to be open and honest with yourself.
You have to create an environment where you and your partner feel safe to provide it, to give it, to receive it.
If you want love, you first have to be able to give it.